If you are single or the seasoned swipe right connoisseur, steering through the dating world during a pandemic is very tough. There are a lot of concerns related to dating, as well as many anxieties related to the coronavirus. Self-love might feel like a tries buzzword, although it is a lot more critical than it has ever been, and it has a great impact on mental health. Given below are seven of the self-love tips that can be sprinkled into the routine of dating so that you can feel at your best in the dating season.
“There are highs and lows as you are always dating, but they have been exacerbated during the pandemic,” says the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, Logan Ury. A study was conducted by a dating app recently, and it found almost three-quarters of the users on Hinge said that they feel anxious before going on a date typically, and one from four noted that the pandemic had made this worse.
This does not mean that people do not swipe anymore. Apps such as Hinge and Tinder both have reported an increase in usage over the past few months. So, if you have been matching as well as chatting with the people along with being nervous about the next step, then few self-care tips have been shared by Ury for dating during this pandemic.
- Meditate before dating
There is a collaborating of Hinge with a mindfulness app, which is Headspace for creating two meditations before the date, which are aimed at dispelling nerves as well as fighting the negative talk that you may have in your mind. Taking a while to stay silent might not figure out the routine before the date usually. But, “Before going on a date, you should feel very confident. People have a critical voice in their head, and you have to get away from this voice.” says Ury.
- Ignore the cuffing season
There is pressure to find someone, especially during October, because we all need someone to snuggle with. The pressure to have someone before the lockdown makes things bad, but it should not be the reason for rushing yourself.
- Date over a Video call before meeting
Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge have a function of video chat designed so that people can see and meet the person online before the date. “Almost more than half of the users prefer video dating during the pandemic for the first time. 81% of the users said that they do not feel awkward and it is low pressure and safer way of connecting. There is no need to put the eyeliner on,” says Ury. You can check if you are on a similar wavelength as the match before you leave your comfort.
- Do not ghost
If you select not to ghost another person, it may sound as if you are protecting another person rather than yourself, but this will allow you to set a boundary for yourself. There is a 27% decrease in ghosting that was seen at Hinge during this pandemic. Ury has explained that when you are clear with others when you talk to them, then it is not just kinder, but it is also a way of becoming an intentional dater.
- Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend.
For the past few months, there is chaos and making your feelings and yourself a priority is essential. If you do not want to meet someone, it is great, but if you do not want to meet them, then it is fine too. Everyone feels many emotions when they date, and it is normal. So, be kind towards yourself. Before you expect that a person may be willing to love you, you have to know that you are a person who is worthy of getting love.
“You need to feel like you’re a person worthy of finding love before you can expect that someone will be willing to love you.”
- Take a break
Make self-care your priority and acknowledge when you are burnt out, says Ury. Just close the dating app till you are in a better place.